Resilience : Bouncing back in difficult times

What is Resilience?

Resilience is a way to describe the quality of something that goes back to its original form after it has been bent or stretched. It is also a popular term used to describe a psychological quality in people. Resilience has been described as “the capacity to cope with change and challenge and bounce back during difficult times.

How Young People Describe Resilience

  • Dealing with hardships and still holding your head up

  • Giving things a go or trying your best

  • Being strong on the inside

  • Being able to cope with what life throws at you and shrug it off

  • Standing up for yourself

As you can see, the idea of resilience focuses on how we deal with stressful situations and adversity – the more resilient we are, the more able we are to manage adversity.

Experiencing the Tough Times

Ups and downs are a normal part of life and there are many times when people feel stretched or under pressure.

Challenges in life can range from easy to manage and causing a small amount of stress, to very stressful, such as a trauma or crisis.

  • What might seem like a mild pressure to one person may very difficult for another. (Likewise, what seems unbearable to one person may be managed fairly easily by another.)

  • Have you ever heard someone’s story and thought to yourself:

  • “If that was me I don’t know how I would have coped!”

  • Or you might have thought “What’s the big deal, what are they so worried about?”.

What Influences Resilience

Factors that influence how people experiences a challenge situation or trauma include:

  • Personal capacities and coping skills.

  • The degree of the trauma or stress.

  • Support and resources available to an individual.

  • Timing and the context of the events.

  • Presence of other circumstances or additional stress present. at the time of the event.

Given that everyone has different life experiences and different resources, it’s important not to judge people on how they cope or how long it takes them to bounce back from a stressful event. (It is TOTALLY personal how long people take to recover from an event.)

It is also equally important not to judge yourself about how you are reacting to a stressful situation.

  • It can be helpful to examine how you cope.

  • Acknowledge your needs.

  • Develop new strategies to get through the tough times.

  • Kinesiology & Counseling are great at helping with this.